This is the email I received from John:
Growing Comfortable in Your Speaking Voice:
A Workshop for Transgender Individuals
- changing accents,
- addressing vocal health issues,
- increasing range,
- improving clarity of speech, and
- erasing vocal fry
Question: Beth, I’ve done several makeovers with you and absolutely love them. I feel beautiful and myself when I’m dressed and when I see my photos. But I’ve been nervous about really unleashing my feminine side and letting her go nuts. I’m sometimes afraid she’ll take over, and I don’t know how to feel about that. How do I know if this is just a part-time thing for me or if I should go full-time? How do I know whether I’m transgender? How do I figure out what to do with what I discover?
(Question adapted from conversations with many of my friends and clients over the past five years.)
Answer: Dear Conflicted, It sounds like you’ve got a lot to think about and process about who you are and where you want to go. A talented LGBTQ-friendly therapist can help you explore your gender identity and all the related feelings and decisions.
I have several therapists listed on my website under my links including Falls Church Counseling (John Thomas), Shawn Rubin, Laurice Counseling Services (Shervon Laurice), and Jacqueline Lubovich. I’ve met each of these therapists, and they each have shown their long-term dedication to the LGBTQ community including people exploring their gender identity.
You may also benefit by discussing your feelings with peers in a support group setting. Several transgender support groups meet regularly in the DC area including MAGIC in Falls Church and Second Friday in Fairfax at MCC NOVA.
Best of luck on journey, and let me know how I can help!
I’ve spent over fifty years of my life as what is referred to today as a transgender person (secluded). When I was little I was considered a freak, called a “retard” and spent many years in child psychologist’s offices. When they made me “all better” I spent the next thirty years, sometimes denying but always hiding who I am. Still hidden, I’ve spent the last ten years in counseling learning about my true self and working through the choices I have at this late point in my life and to undo the previous forty years.
Albeit ever so cliche, in one afternoon Beth led me to experience the person who has always lived inside me, the woman I now know I’m able to be. The makeup lesson allowed me to share a weekend with my life partner as this amazing person. Beth even got me outside for the first “real” time to take a couple of photos. Beth is really an amazing, caring, compassionate, and extremely talented person. The worst part of the whole experience … the weekend ended!
My sincerest thanks Beth, please keep “being fabulous!”
See you soon,